I
was getting a lot emails from people asking to write on this topic. It
is an important topic but there are no universal points to describe this
topic. It depends on individual. So as I said in my other blog, for
better result contact me and tell me about you. But I didn’t expect
hundreds of emails. It’s good that people really care about themselves.
Everyone who wants to know can contact me. But for those who don’t like
to ask personally, these are some steps to follow.
Selecting
the right person to share the rest of your life is an important step
for everyone. But most of us don’t do it in the right way and it results
in fight and then separation. There can be many reasons for the fight
and separation but if he/she would have selected the right person for
his or her life then he or she wouldn’t faced that problem. Your fight
not only affects you, but it also affects your kids and their future.
That doesn’t help them in becoming a good person in the society. So,
selecting the right person is not only good for you, but it is also good
for the future generation and the society.
There
is no universal set of characters or features to find a perfect person.
It differs from person to person. So I am going to tell you about how
to select your future spouse, not what you should look for.
Find
similarities and differences. You should not select either a person who
completely matches you or a person who is completely opposite to you.
In some cases, he or she should be opposite to you and in some cases he
or she should be like you. For example, in every family either the wife
or the husband should be frugal and other one generous. Both of you
should have common things like, if you like to travel a lot and enjoy
your weekends to some adventures place but your spouse like to spend his
or her time in home. There are dozens of features to look for.
Another important thing is to be honest to you. People
select their life partner is like kids select a toy. Kids don’t look at
the disadvantages of the product. Sometimes a single feature of the
product covers all the disadvantages. We stick with the feature to fool
ourselves and think of all other points as useless. Just like the
smokers. The smokers know that smoking will kill them but still they
can’t quit it.
Be
honest to yourself and ask yourself about what do you like about him or
her and what you don’t like about him or her. The main problem in love
and relationship is that, you don’t see the negative things about him or
her. You know about his or her negative feature but you try to cheat
yourself and think that it’s not important. That’s why love is blind. It
is not blind because the person in love can’t see but it is blind
because they can’t think. It don’t cover your eye, it covers your mind.
Another
way to know is by asking someone who cares about you. Ask your family
and friends. I prefer to ask your parents. They are the people who know
more about us than any other person. They will tell you about what kind
of person can manage his or her life with you.
Another
simple way to know whether you can live a happy life with him or her is
by comparing him or her. You should compare each of his or her
character with someone you know. No two people are similar so compare
with different people. For example, if he or she is short tempered, lazy
and car lover. Then look for any of your friends or family members who
are short tempered and think on how to you behave when they are angry.
Do this with his or her other characters and get a result by combining
all of his or her characters.
